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Aug. 26th, 2017 at 2:14 PM
"When people insult you, don't take offense, don't take it personally, but do listen to their words.
They are telling you how they see the world, and they are telling you the exact negative qualities that they possess.
'The Law of Mirrors' states that one can only see what's in them, regardless if it is what is actually present in reality or not.
Release the need to defend or try to explain to them that you're not being whatever-nasty-insult-they've-thrown-at-you,
but evaluate instead all of these insults, and realize that this is who they are.
Then, decide if a person with those qualities is one who you'd like in your life or not."
(Doe Zantamata)
Comments
Obviously not, and stating an unsupported opinion as a 'Law' is intentionally misleading.
Quite a few people take any criticism or complaint about their behavior as an unprovoked and unjustified personal attack based solely in the other person's "negative qualities". So how about this message instead?
See...how shall I say? It's one of those quotes, that apply in certain situations, and I was thinking of a particular set of situations that I'd seen, that's all.
Otherwise, just as many such quotes, it's too pat and doesn't apply to everything. Similar examples come to mind, that I'd seen, such as:
"Never apologize, never explain. Because people who matter won't mind and people who mind don't matter."
(I mean yes, in some situations, to some extent, sure, it will not help to try to explain...but...)
(I've found some other quotes/pics on Pinterest, too, the other day...will probably post them to LJ for dissection and commentary, will tag you when/if I do)
Anyway! Thanks for your insightful analysis, as always. You might like this quote by Doe Zantamata better:
("In a really good friendship, some days you're the bread and some days you're the toaster. Some days you really need some warmth and encouragement and other days you're there to give it.")
or this one ;)
("If you can get past the fear of looking a little silly or getting a little dirty, you sure can have a lot of fun here in this thing that we call life.")